...Well, you gave off the distinct impression that you were doing Devil's Trill, and that was your cosplay plan for AB. Which means none of those are getting done while I'm still here.

And I think Mara's sentiment is more that she doesn't want to be around you if you're going to secretly hate it and/or pretend nothing ever happened. Which, to be honest, you haven't shown any inclination of not doing, at least as far as I can see. Having hung around with two people who are secretly glowering at each other isn't an enjoyable experience for _anyone_ - I've been there.

...So...you're not cosplaying for AB? Going to AB? Something like that?

And you brought her up by saying you weren't doing groups because she doesn't want to see you. I was clarifying that particular remark.

...Well, if you leave it off until later to decide what you have time to do, you're, uh, not going to have that time any more. You've got eight months, which is a _lot_ of time if you use it wisely.

(Also, I won't press the issue, but...not talking about Mara will not make her or the problem magically go away.)

...It seems logical to me to work on the costume that's for a con that's eight months away before working on one for a con that's twelve months away, but they're your costumes, not mine.

I don't intend to be - the fact that you blocked and defriended someone who you once considered a friend and then more or less vowed to never speak to again, and now are claiming that you're perfectly fine around isn't in any way anomalous at all?

Yes, but you have to actually be on good terms with the person for it to work at all. It'd be like me trying to spend a day with Joni or something. It wouldn't work - there would be yelling after twenty minutes.

I think it depends on 1) what you feel is condescending and 2)tone, which doesn't carry well in written conversation. I could see how it could be condescending, if in a tone I didn't intend there. Otherwise, it's just the way I say things.