My answer was time. (I HEAR IT HEALS ALL WOUNDS!) But seriously, it worked. I was convinced that I'd never be on good terms with Anna again, that it had gone too far, that I'd always hate the person she had become, that she was absolutely unforgiveable, that things could never be the same, and that my jaw-grinding hatred would stay.
But then it didn't. I haven't forgiven her for what she did, because I do believe it was wrong and I was still in the right. But I've stopped letting it bother me, and I've stopped being angry about it. And when enough time went by without speaking to her, period, she eventually became a person I could speak to again. And while things aren't back to exactly the way they used to be -- because we're not each other's very best friend anymore -- but it's still pretty damn close. We behave towards each other the way it used to be.
If that makes any sense.
But yeah. Let enough time go by so you can put some distance between a) what they did and who they used to be, and b) what they are today. Sortof?
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Date: 2007-05-07 11:08 am (UTC)From:But then it didn't. I haven't forgiven her for what she did, because I do believe it was wrong and I was still in the right. But I've stopped letting it bother me, and I've stopped being angry about it. And when enough time went by without speaking to her, period, she eventually became a person I could speak to again. And while things aren't back to exactly the way they used to be -- because we're not each other's very best friend anymore -- but it's still pretty damn close. We behave towards each other the way it used to be.
If that makes any sense.
But yeah. Let enough time go by so you can put some distance between a) what they did and who they used to be, and b) what they are today. Sortof?